Wednesday, January 4, 2012

The Sunny Side of The Street

I was trolling through some of my favorite blogs this morning and came across Jenna's blog at Cold Antler

A couple of days ago she wrote a post titled "On Comments" about readers of her blog who posted negative comments to the point that she's considering not allowing commenting on her blog at all.

This got me to thinking about blogging in general.  One of my BIGGEST concerns when I first started blogging would be "what would people think about what I have to say." 

This single thought, in and of itself, is with me every time I hit the "publish post" button. 

It's my auto-censure. 

Am I writing something that's too personal, too controversial, too snarky?  If I'm not sure, I sit on the post for awhile and consider "diluting" the content a bit.  How honest do I really want to be?  Will SM think what I've shared is too personal?  Do I really want to talk about things that might piss some people off or open myself to criticism?

When we sit down face to face we use the social "manners" that we were taught as kids.  There are just some things that people in polite company don't discuss or if you DO discuss it, you tend to "tread lightly" so as not to offend.

I tend to think that my blog is light and fluffy.  You won't find any earth-shattering discoveries in any of my posts.  I'm walking the sunny side of the street for the most part.  I like to point out the humor (sometimes embarrassingly so) in a situation but I don't do it to cause hurt.  I do it because I honestly think it's funny.

Still, it makes me reflect. 

I personally love to make comments and get comments.  I learn so much about what people think, what they've experienced, what their life's lessons have taught them. 

I've never gotten what I considered a "negative" comment here.  But I do understand how that could make the hair on the back of my neck stand up.  You bet I'd be defensive.  And then I'd probably be sad. 

I've learned over the years that you can be told how great you are 50 different ways to Sunday, but if just one person has a criticism...Well, that's all you hear.  Then you think badly of yourself, your performance.  You start to question yourself.

And that's just too bad...

Maybe we all need to be reminded about our manners.  What is it they say? 

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. 

Words to live by.

8 comments:

  1. I was raised that if you couldn't say something good, move on. And I do. I love to comment on sites I visit-but have eliminated comments from my site at times because I had gotten negative remarks, or I was afraid of negative comments. It's sorta true-you start writing for yourself, but before you know it, it's not you anymore. It's the edited version....sad, but true.
    It's great timing on this post, because I have been debating taking my blog private....so I can be me.....gloomy days and all.
    But don't YOU dare do that! I'd miss my daily read!

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  2. I so agree. If your words can't add something kind or helpful, don't open your mouth! ;0)

    I find that the older I get, the less I care what people think. I use my blog for good knowing that those who are meant to find it, will.

    Stay toasty today!

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  3. Ha, I get a few. I even find them humorous. Kinda like a game as to what the next crazy comment will be. That is what the privacy of the internet has done. They would never say these things to your face, but a comment to you when your miles away is no problem.

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  4. Tami - I've only had one "difficult" commenter on my blog - "Wickets". The last comment caused me to reply - "why so sarky?" Since then "Wickets" has been silent. LOL Nowt since then. All I try to do on my blog is share my / our eco-path. If others find it interesting - wonderful. If they are bored - sorry - if they are indifferent - well, I've noticed that they don't leave a comment - and that's fine. To each their own. And as for my "soap box moments - well, I have them now and then - take them or leave them LOL I'll continue to blog as long as I get one person's positive feedback - for my "caring is sharing" motto is what keeps me going...

    Personally, I love your blog :)

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  5. Sue - Please don't go private - I'd miss you... :)

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  6. Well, I guess I have been lucky so far, no negative comments,and I agree,if you can't say something good,or at least productive,than keep quiet. Still, I love to blog,and give comments,and also get them,so I will continue to post,and leave comments,and just hope for the best. Blessings Jane

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  7. I agree... I love your blog, too! Even the title 500 DOLLAR TOMATO makes me smile every day, and I look forward to reading about your perspectives and reactions to life in the trenches. Keep up the good work.

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  8. Hey, Chipmunk! Welcome! Thanks for your encouraging words!

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