"Getting rid of everything that doesn’t matter allows you to remember who you are. Simplicity doesn’t change who you are, it brings you back to who you are."

Sunday, April 26, 2015

What You Need

While it's not my favorite Rolling Stones song (Gimme Shelter is), I can't help that one life altering phrase from the Stones echoing in my mind sometimes.

You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes well you might find
You get what you need.

I usually take the last week of April as a Staycation week.  It's been that way for more than 10 years.  This year a coworker had a wedding to go to in the Dominican Republic and she would be gone for most of the week. Since we're a small office the unspoken rule is only one person out at a time. 

So I signed myself out for vacation the first week of May instead and (like so many things) it's going to work out just fine.  The weather this week is coolish at best with a few days of rain forecast.  Which would normally be fine with me except I'd like to finish the exterior house painting which needs warmer, drier air.  My staycation week forecast is in the low 80's at this time.  Perfect!

Yesterday was another fine example of the want/need conundrum.  I wanted to continue working on the deck.  But SM was congested and we had a pretty steady light rain all day so we put on the sleepy pants and binge watched some Blacklist episodes and napped and then watched Zero Dark Thirty.  

Not how I imagined the day going but in the end we both remarked that the enforced down time was not unappreciated.

I could go on for hours about the want/need thing.

I didn't want to get married (never thought I would) but I sure am glad SM is in my life.  I need him more than I need me.

I didn't want a third dog when Casey Pig wandered into our life.

I need her now.  She has such a happy spirit that I can't imagine life without her.

I want an easier drive time
And no more hot flashes.
And to loose 20 lbs without effort.

What I need is to get there safely no matter how long it takes.
I need (and have) fans and AC wherever I am.

And even if I'm chubbier than I want to be, I really just want my Dr to tell me that I'm healthy for another year when I go see her next week for my annual checkup.  Regardless of what the scale says.

How bout you?  Any wants/needs you'd like to share?


  1. Having your health and a good, solid, loving relationship goes a long, long way toward making it all okay.

    I could probably list a few wants/needs if my brain was functioning this morning but we put in a very physical work day yesterday (our weather was gorgeous) and although I don't have any aches and pains this morning, I slept like a drugged ton of bricks last night and am having great difficulty even typing this morning.

    This was a very lovely post, Tami.

  2. I want my life to be like it was before my wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer on Jan. 14th. 2014. I need my wife.

  3. Keeping those wants and needs straight is a very good thing. And knowing the difference, for sure.

  4. I let the wants and needs figure themselves out - I am for the whatevers.